Fitness – Your Inner Song

Fitness is a great communicator, a charismatic force that puts you in touch with your inner self. It builds bridges within you that heal and seal the yawning emptiness mentioned earlier in this chapter. And it follows that when you feel great about yourself, complete in yourself, can you relate better to other people that you are in touch with.
Fitness is a three-way process. Firstly, it sparks off a communicative current within you. In turn, you – in an entirely natural manner – transfer this spark to the people you deal with. And here comes the interesting part. So irresistible is this special spark that the people you deal with respond in kind. There is an explanation for this phenomenon.
By being fit you are in your natural element. Which means you have awakened the inner you a special entity. When you feel that specialness, you communicate it unconsciously to the next person. And equally unconsciously, the next person responds to your specialness.
Look at the other side of the coin. If you are not fit, you are not confident, you slouch a little, perhaps you mumble. Unconsciously, you are beaming out a negative message to the other person. A message that murmurs timidly, “I am not confident, I am not special” And, likewise, the other person responds – turning your opinion about yourself back on you.
But fitness makes you stand upright with your spine straight and firm. Your eyes are clear, there is a glow about you. You may not say much, but your bearing, the way you hold yourself says, “I am special” And the other person absorbs this and gives a mental appreciative nod.
In short, fitness restructures the grammar of your body language. It infuses it with positive adjectives and beams them out to everybody. Fitness enhances your solo performance on the stage of life.
If you have watched – even as you have listened to – a solo performance of an artiste singing, you may have observed a few things. At first, the singer may look as ordinary as the boy or girl next door. But as the notes spiral upwards and the night deepens, there’s a flush on his face. The features seem transformed by an inner emotion giving him a strange glow, an extraordinary beauty. The audience feels not only the magic of the music but also vibrates to the personality of the performer.
Why is it that we come away from a musical performance feeling uplifted? The genius of the singer is undisputed. But has it ever struck you that there is also something special inside you that responds so wholeheartedly to the magic?
If you examine yourself in this new light, you will get a fresh perspective on yourself. That you, too, are no run-of-the-mill individual, but a tremendous entity in yourself. For some reason our culture does not teach us anything positive about our individual selves. It’s sad because we lose so much by going through life feeling inferior. Yet, if every one of us were to be analysed objectively, we’d find greatness residing in every single being.
You may feel that those who’ve reached the top of the corporate ladder, for example, must be feeling they’re the greatest – the achievers. Surprisingly, it is not sp. We’ve met a few who don’t. They still feel they lack something. Which is why they set out to impress you by dropping names, informing you directly or indirectly about their assets. They even go to extreme lengths to prove they are creative, broad-minded, have a vision.
In all probability, if you too are tuned only to your negative self, you come away feeling patronized, abused, put down. This is where we mourn the loss of communication. Two warm, lovely people can vibe poorly due to a total lack of communication within themselves.
But suppose you are positive about yourself, know deep within you that your existence in this world is as justified as the next person’s, that though you are only a small part of the dynamic human race there is nobody like you, that you may not be a top dog in a corporation but are an extremely important member of the world, you would react differently. You would recognise the fact that the other guy is only trying to impress you by trotting out his acquaintances and assets. That he wants you to feel he is as intelligent as you, as creative as you. In other words, he feels he is only , as important as the people he knows, the things he possesses.
The problem with the person you’ve met is that he is not in harmony with himself. But you needn’t feel pulled down to his level if you believe and know that you are a physical phenomenon created by Nature with a mind, a spirit, suffused by something special- the inner song.
It is the inner song – that great harmonious element within you – that has responded to the almost divine spell cast by the singer’. You feel uplifted because during those precious hours all the components inside you were in harmony, a state of equilibrium -like a perfectly composed song.
In this condition, you can be quietly content or joyously vibrant. And for days afterwards, the memory of that wonderful experience tingles within you. This is so because of a simple law of nature. The singer has communicated through his art and you have absorbed it and responded to it. And you have been able to react so ‘positively because it has touched the positive self inside you. It means you have the ability to be positive. Just like say, a piano when played gives off music. When the keys inside you were ‘pressed’ by the singer’s melody, you too vibrated and ‘gave off music.’
But, you may ask, how do I keep those keys pressed constantly, how do I hold on to that special tingle? The answer is simple. Keep fit. Fitness opens the doors to self-belief. It keeps you in a perpetual state of inner harmony. Wasn’t it William Shakespeare, that great literary king, who wrote, “To thine own self be true, and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” To that, we’d add, “and no man can be false to you,” because with your inner confidence, with the inner song humming through you, you need never feel that somebody is putting you down or patronizing you – because you are an extraordinary creation of natureFind Article, a gift to humankind. In simple words: because you are you.

Exploring the Mental Aspect of Fitness

A look at the mental aspect of fitness. Having a fitness lifestyle is not just about the exercises you do; it is about how you view exercise and its ramifications on your life that makes the difference.
I promote and teach the 3 phases of fitness to all my clients. Many are unaware of what the three phases entail. If you fall into this same category…let me take this opportunity to enlighten you.
The 3 phases are the Mental, Physical and Financial aspects or phases of fitness. This is a concept I developed a little over two years ago and have had great success with improving client’s mindsets. Let’s look at how each of these relate to your health and fitness.
Mental fitness: Everyone has a fitness “script” or mindset concerning fitness. This is what is instilled in each of us at an early age. It is how our parents, teachers, loved ones, and society as a whole views health and fitness. Just like most beliefs we posses… they were learned.
I like to call it a fitness script.
Most scripts have been formed from the experiences in one’s life. This script is what is keeping people overweight, unhappy and full of excuses.
Speaking of excuses, in order to fulfill the “I am not worthy prophesy,” clients will sabotage their potential success with reasons why exercise will never work.
You see, they do not actually want to succeed.
Achieving their goals would mean they are abandoning the script; the script for failure.
No matter how much weight some people lose, they will eventually start to gain it back because they are “destined,” in their minds, to have big hips, thighs and buttocks.
There is also the added pressure of keeping it off, lifestyle changes, ridicule and judgment from the family.
Making excuses relieves the pressure. Actually, people become pretty good at it. The more excuses they make, the more they will believe them too. It becomes reality.
A lot of the excuses are based in fear as well.
When he or she attempts a weight loss program the fears begin to surface.
“What if I fail?”
“What if I lose weight and then gain it all back?”
“How will people look at me …judge me?”
“This will take up a lot of time.”
“I will lose a lot of freedom.”
“I would rather go down the traveled road…the easy road.”
All of this thinking is based on someone’s blueprint or script of fitness and of success.
Much of failure in life is rooted in fear.
The good news is anyone can edit the script at any time. They can discard the old ways of thinking; the thoughts that belong to someone else anyway – the reasoning that has lead to being overweight, unsatisfied and miserable.
When clients make up their minds to develop their own fitness script, one that involves proper exercise, eating habits and respect for their body, then they begin to write a “happy ending “ for themselves.
Proper fitness knowledge, affirmations/positive self-talk, support partners or friends are all tools to re-set the mental aspect of fitness and to get it moving full steam ahead.
When it comes to meeting fitness goals, I feel changing the inside first is the way to go. Your mindset will affect how you approach health and wellness. It can make all the difference in your fitness aspirations.
Looking and feeling good should be something you desire to do; not what you think should be done.
Beyond achieving goals or resolutions, proper health should be a way of living. If people would just make it a priority, then being fit would not be such a struggle or loathsome routine per se.
One of my clients, we will call her Joan, tells her story this way:
“I am a busy mother who put work and family above my health. After talking with you I decided to make my health a priority; not a time-consuming one, nonetheless a priority. I don’t really set goals. I just make sure I do something everyday for at least 20 minutes. Sometimes that is 7-8 minutes here and another 10 minutes there, but I always find time to exercise… it is never a matter of if, just when. I have a passion to look and feel great. By making exercise a part of my day, no matter what, it has made all the difference. I am a better mom, better accountant and better person for it.”
You see, it does not take extravagant routines, flashy exercise garb or expensive equipment to be fit. The main thing is that you do something to stay healthy. For me, (and my clients) it begins with the mind. Train your way of thinking. Write your own script on what the “healthy you” looks and feels like.
Find routines that make you feel good about you.
Before you ever pick up a dumbbell, get rid of all the “negative information” about exercise. Create a new script based on good, solid health and fitness information; this, aloneFind Article, will have a huge impact on your fitness results.
Take home points:
Don’t believe what others have told you about exercise and fitness.
Develop your own fitness script based on good health information and positive experiences.
Begin any program focusing on your mindset and getting the inner self prepared.
Prioritize: make exercise a must… for you.
Do some type of exercise everyday. This does not have to be time consuming to get results.
Focus on improving how you feel about yourself and how that affects the world around you.
Having a fitness lifestyle is not just about the exercises you do; it is about how you view exercise and its ramifications on your life that makes the difference.
“The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” Marcel Proust